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This list does not include all sexual/BDSM definitions, only ones typically referenced within book or RH circuits (not all books include this, mind you, but I figured it would be useful)
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**Sexual terms (most likely to see, does not include all terms)
Ageplay: Type of roleplay that includes a distinct difference between ages (i.e. see DDlg)
BDSM: Bondage Dominance Submission Masochism
Bondage: Restraint or restriction
Bottom: One who receives sensation of action
Breathplay: Restricting breath (i.e. choking)
Cane/Caning: Striking someone with a cane (or other item such as semi-flexible material), usually across broad, fleshy areas of the body
Consent: Saying yes and agreeing to sexual acts (NOT coerced and freely given)
CBT: Cock and Ball Torture/Cunt and Breast Torture
CNC: Consensual non-consent (a.k.a. rape play- safe words such as red, yellow, green used to safely recreate non-consent)
DDlb: Daddy Dom/little boy (does NOT mean underage or actual child)
DDlg: Daddy Dom/little girl (does NOT mean underage or actual child)
Dominant: One who has, takes, or receives power (Dom/Domme)
D/s - Dominant/submissive (sexual personality type)
--examples of sexual pairing:
i.e.: M/m: Dom/sub male on male
i.e.: mFm: female Domme with two non-interacting submissive men
i.e.: Mmf: Dom male with submissive male and female, includes male on male content
DubCon: Dubious-consent (coerced or forced through threats or other means)
Edgeplay: Practices that are considered inherently risky (i.e. breathplay/choking, CNC)
Fetish: Object or action that isn't necessarily sexual, but acts as a turn-on or holds a sexual association (i.e. leather)
Golden Showers: Peeing on someone/being peed on
Hard Limit: Action or item that a person is not comfortable with and will not consider (see Limit and Soft Limit for further explanation)
Impact Play: Act of hitting or making an impact (i.e. spanking, slapping)
Limit: Line a person sets between what they will consider/do and what they won't (see Hard Limit and Soft Limit)
Masochist: One who enjoys receiving pain
MDlb: Mommy Domme/little boy (does NOT mean underage or actual child)
MDlg: Mommy Domme/little girl (does NOT mean underage or actual child)
M/s: Master/slave, type of D/s relationship
NonCon: Non-consent (a.k.a. rape)
OTK: Over the Knee (i.e. spanking)
Play: Verb used to describe a BDSM action (i.e. ageplay, rapeplay)
Play Party: Where people get together to play (i.e. sex club seen in The King by Ivy Fox)
S&M: Sadism and masochism
Sadist: One who enjoys giving pain
Sadomasochist: One who enjoys both giving and receiving pain.
Safeword: Pre-agreed upon word for either party to use (typically used for bottom or sub if it's gone too far). Does not necessarily have to be no or stop, but is the equivalent (common example: Green- keep going, Yellow- pause/check-in, Red- stop immediately)
Soft Limit: A limit one will consider possibly doing in the future, but isn't comfortable with currently
Submissive: One who gives, relents, or doesn't have power (Sub)
Switch: One who switches between roles
Top: One who gives sensation or action
Vanilla: Used to describe non-kink sex (also used to describe 'boring sex' in some cases, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS!)